Answering the question, “Why are narcissists so mean”.
Narcissists “love bomb” targets, meaning, they give empty compliments and a false sense of security to their target.
They appear so mean or suddenly mean, only because you’ve been tricked into thinking that they care; they never did.
At their worst, they are broken people who want to break other people.
At their best, they are mildly broken people who regress into hurtful behaviors. There are ranges of narcissism just like there are ranges of everything else.
They are mean because that is how they are made up, ie, developed and molded, their way to control, their way to manipulate and hold someone back, their way to achieve stolen recognition, their way to simply fill them up.
Don’t try to figure them out – learn a little then move on.